Marriage is Marriage!Arranged-or Love!Some confuse it-in different tunes.Otherwise any kind of marriage is highly expected to go through lot of adjustment.
On a natural arrangement, a man is different from a woman, forget about caste, creed, religion or region in a bordeless world.If both have mutual understanding and both have some common understanding about the behavioral approach of each other in different context-life becomes a LOVE AFFAIR.
It's natural, when two individual talks of marriage may have prior intimacy in their past life or may be strangers altogether!But that is fair enough to enter into a relationship.To convert a relationship into a marriageable proposition OR a strange meeting leading to mariage, possibility is there that both may succeed or both may fall apart.The reasons are plenty.
Some could be:
1.a man feels/or falls in love with a lady-without matured understanding about the psychic frame of each other.When got married, they feel overstressful in handling each other's cues.
2.Some people carry different belief system, that a woman should carry the command of the husband, the moment the other partner revolts, all sorts of trouble comes in.
3.Some have stiff attitude on earning capacity, and that carries a hell-bent frame of mnd, who should respond to whom on contingencies!So lot of confusions are there.
4.Some are prone to social beliefs-without realising that a good life is a good life-when adjsuted well.
Some conceptual Formats /that can be tried to see a marriage sails through difficult times/and harmony is maintained through apart form lot of compromises:-
1.a man or woman, should gain some insights by reading some books 'specifically written for a man/or a woman'.Some publications are available -from established sources with research based studies/that guides 'what a woman thinks/how she behaves to certain situations/inclusing sexual cues and fulfilment thereof.
If some go through these self readings, and have some idea-they may feel at ease in dealing with any woman.
2.There are many other derivative words>that signify the 'couple in love'-other than crude sexual advances!Like-you can confront with the word Love with sympathy, adjustment, friendliness, and many others, thereby you carry compromises to sort out your differences, without hurting the marriage.
3.As per Hindu traditions, the kids are very receptive to daily cues of their parents.If proper balance is not maintained through, kids are confused.So, family harmony should be given top priority.
4.sometimes, couple confuse Sex as prime target.But once they add value addition to their life , they have less time to focus on crude sex, and get pleasure from their quality engagement , be it social service or be it research activities in business or scientific research or anything that is good on a futuristic platfoorm.The whole idea is 'noble engagement keeps you hooked to harmonious relationship'apart from periodic hitchs-which is a common factor and may occur as per the swings of human mood.
Believe-any one being in 'LOVE' or in a ongoing relationship should try to understand 'what a woman wants-or what a man wants', and live a better life without hurting each other and making the earth a wonderful and peaceful place.Why not experinece the paradise here as well!!!
NEW ADDITION:-
Naturally if we have 6.0 bnor abv population in the earth, we have all have different identity, different taste.Som the partnering lies between a couple is very precious, attractive and very sacred as per Hindu culture.Well be it western or eastern typical views on marriage-faling in love-getting married or getting an entry to marital bliss through arrange set up, all leads to a 'harmonious relationship between two different soulsmate' and both love to enter into ageing -and taking care of family legacy and rasinng their offsprings through a joint responsibilty.all adjustment requires close relationships that takes a solid form after taking different types of adjustments right from romancing to taking life responsibilities.And the process is multi-step and multi dimenional co operation.There is no short cut route to success.A little misunderstanding may lead to divorce without considering the precious value of the 'emotional investment'-it's more costly than any kind of investment in the material world.
